Why we fail at resolutions

NO TOOLS

  • We have the desire and good intentions but do not implement the tools to succeed!
    • Structure
      • Consistency and goal planning helps to provide structure to any resolution or goal you have
      • Creating a goal with steps on how to reach that goal breaks it down into manageable steps that you conquer one small step at a time
      • Psychologically this gives you small successes that reinforce forward progress
    • Discipline
      • If you struggle with self discipline use tools to help you such as apps, a calendar or journal or other people such as friends or trainers as accountability partners
      • Our brains like routine, they are wired this way! So if we practice consistency over a period of time it actually creates a habit or routine in our brains (which it loves!) and our lives which then becomes easier to sustain over time
    • Insight into our decision making
      • Many of us go through life reacting and making decisions without ever exploring the real reasons that motivate the decisions
      • If you can be honest with yourself and dig down through the layers to the real reasons you make decisions it will help you then make different decisions moving forward
      • Example: we say we “do not have time” to exercise but studies show adults spend over an hour a day on social media. So do we really not have time or are we choosing to spend our time doing other activities?

WE ACTUALLY SABOTAGE OURSELVES!

    • Self sabotage is choosing to do something that is contradictory to your health, wellness or life goals—and know this can happen consciously or unconsciously
    • We often self sabotage because of the stories we tell ourselves about who we are
      • As we grow up we develop a sense of self based on feedback from the world around us and the people in it
      • We receive messages from others over time that we create into our sense of self and these beliefs can run deep within us and influence our behavior and mood
      • Example: I have the belief that I am not good enough or worthy. I am not worthy of being taken care of. This core belief manifests itself in the subsequent belief that I need to take care of everyone else first. The behavior that stems from this belief is you may find yourself taking care of everyone else in your life and not schedule time into your schedule to exercise.
      • Often it is scarier to change our core beliefs than choose new behavior because then it changes how you view yourself and your world

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